Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Wrestling With Identity

Early on in life, before I met husband, or even Jesus for that matter, I had visions of myself as the proverbial career woman (I actually have a BS in Accounting) with maybe a husband but definitely no kids.  In 1988, when I met Jesus, things changed. 

Then in 1995 everything changed - I married, and two years later became a mom. 

I found that my vision for my life had not only changed, but changed drastically.

Now, I loved being a wife and taking care of my home and living life with my husband…still do – even after 17 years!!  And being a mom…words cannot describe it! 

I have spent the last 17 years forming my identity around my family

I am a wife and a mom.  Period.  And I have no problem with that, I simply have a questioning, a stirring for more….  Could this be called an identity crisis?
1: personal psychosocial conflict that involves confusion about one's social role and often a sense of loss of continuity to one's personality
2: a state of confusion in an institution or organization regarding its nature or direction
I am keenly aware of how fast my children are growing up.  They are now 13 and 15.  In five short years, even high school will be a memory. 

Then what will my identity be?  

What direction will I head? 

Could / should I be going in that direction now?

I comprehend the fact that I am first and foremost a Daughter of the Most High God. 
But I will also always be a wife and help-meet, and I will certainly always be their Mom. 

I guess my question in all of this is…

As wives and mothers, how do we keep from forging our identities in the roles of wife and mom?  Shouldn’t there be more?  And if so, how do we get there?


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Amy said...

Great question! There's always the confict between who we ARE and what we DO. Sometimes they are the same, sometimes not. I think just recognizing the dichotomy is a good sign that you are in fact NOT having an identity crisis. It's when the DO changes that it gets crazy.

Hopping over from New Life STeward today. Glad I found you.

Lori said...

Thanks Amy! Glad to meet you!

MB@NewLifeSteward said...

Maybe mentoring is in your future.... :)

Thanks for linking up with WIP Wednesday!
Mary Beth